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  • “Why do I have such a bad memory?”

    September 28th, 2010Keryl PesceLife in general, Stress and Guilt

    What if I told you your memory wasn't as bad as you think? As a matter of fact, what if I told you your memory is perfect?

    I know, sounds a little far-fetched. But it's not.

    I neither have MD nor PhD after my name, and while I don't doubt there are legitimate conditions that affect our memories, I've got a different theory about why many of us have difficulty remembering. And it doesn't have anything to do with smoking too many doobies or popping too many Quaaludes back in the day.

    It has to do with these two things:

    1 - An over-worked, under-rested, too-busy mind. 

    2 - Our lack of present-moment awareness.

    Let's talk about the first issue. You've heard from me and no doubt other sources, that each of us has two parts to us – our conscious and our subconscious. You know this already, unless of course, you forgot. (OK, kidding, couldn't resist)

    What you may not know is that the primary function of our subconscious mind is memory. It remembers everything. The problem has less to do with the information being there and more to do with our access to it.

    So what's the deal? Why does our SC withhold stuff from us? It doesn't. The problem is, we block it. How? By keeping our conscious mind too busy and too crowded with incessant thinking and worrying. When we've got too much going through our heads, there's no path, no opening for what's held in our memory to come through.

    Think about it. Have you ever worked yourself up to a tizzy because you couldn't remember the name of a person or a movie? And the harder you tried to remember, the more frustrated you became? Yes. We all have. Then when does the answer come to you? When you aren't trying too hard to remember. When you're more relaxed. When your conscious mind is less busy.

    So what's the solution?

    We need to learn how to relax and rest our minds. Give our brains a break once in a while by doing two things.

    First, slow the pace of your thoughts down. Become the observer of your thoughts, and when you catch them off to the races, slow down.

    Second, practice moments of suspended thought, of just being without thinking. It may feel a little uncomfortable at first, especially if you're not used to it, but trust me, you will feel renewed and more relaxed. In that state, you will not only remember more, you will be more creative and make better decisions. You could even take that to the next level and practice meditating. Just this alone will improve your memory.

    Now let's address the second issue. Lack of present-moment awareness.

    Have you ever walked into a room and forgotten why you went in? Welcome to the club.

    Well, guess what? The reason that happens is you are distracted. Your body is walking down the hall, but your mind isn't. It's off creating a grocery list or picking out an outfit for the morning. Your thoughts are somewhere else. Same goes for driving somewhere and not remembering the whole ride. It's not a bad memory. It's lack of presence. Not only is it frustrating, but it's downright dangerous. How many car accidents do you think are caused because we're not paying attention? Too many.

    What's the solution here? Again, become the observer of your own thoughts. Each time you catch your thoughts drifting away from the present moment, task or experience at hand, bring them back. At first, it will take some effort on your part. But just like anything else you learned - walking, riding a bike or driving a car – the more you do it, the less deliberate and conscious effort it takes. Before long, it will simply become how you think and live.

    You get an added bonus with  these suggestions. Yes, your memory, or rather your ability to allow what you already have stored come through when you need it, will improve. But additionally, your stress level will drop. And not by just a little. You do what I suggest above on a regular basis, and you will drastically reduce the amount of stress and anxiety you feel.

    Not bad for a little adjustment in how we think, wouldn't you say?

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  • I would have to say that I have been having a lot of my own stress brought on by energy shift in the Universe, sleep definitely is helping it’s effecting my everyday life and my head is over loaded so rest is one key factor in all of this … Thanks Keryl

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