Ask Happy Bitch…

Women, life, happiness
  • Why am I so depressed? Will I ever be happy again?

    Click here to read the full post...
    scissors
    May 6th, 2010Keryl PesceLife in general

    Let me start by reminding you that I am not a therapist. I'm just happy. So if you are reading this and feel desperately depressed, please reach out to a professional. I do invite you to read on, and my guess is you will find something helpful, but I suggest perhaps you do both.

    Now to answering these questions, which believe it or not, are enough to go on. Many, including most therapists, would disagree. Why? It is common practice to dig into the past, drag out any and all painful childhood memories (even those we would have preferred to forget), analyze our not-so-brilliant choices and search for the root cause, the reason, the justification so you can say "Oh, that's why I feel like shit."

    But I've got to wonder just how helpful that is. How many people end up continue »

    Tags: , , , , ,
  • “My teenage daughter won’t listen to me.”

    Click here to read the full post...
    scissors
    April 22nd, 2010Keryl PesceFamily and Relationships, Life in general

     

    " Lately, I look in the eyes of my daughter, and it feels as if I'm living with a stranger. I don't know who she is anymore. All I'm trying to do is keep her on a good path – get her to do her homework, do a few chores around the house and stay away from kids who are a bad influence. I'm her mother. That's what I'm supposed to do. But she doesn't see it that way. She fights me tooth and nail on everything. I punish her, and her behavior gets even worse. It's as if it has become her life's mission to make my life miserable. And she's doing a damn good job of it. I didn't raise her to be this lazy and disrespectful. I'm at my wits' end."

    This woman, Kathy, is a normal mother and just wants what's best for her daughter. What mother doesn't? This challenge certainly isn't unique to Kathy. Millions of parents believe in their heart of hearts that they know what's best for their children and will stop at nothing  to keep them on the right path. After all, it's for their own good.

    Or is it? continue »

    Tags: , , , , , , ,
  • “Why can’t I lose weight? I would be so happy.”

    Click here to read the full post...
    scissors
    April 14th, 2010Keryl PesceFamily and Relationships, Healthy Living
    Well if that ain't the question on the minds of about 98% of adult women, I don't know what is. This is going to be interesting. What I’m about to tell you isn’t what you’re used to hearing.
     
    Let's start with the question "Why can't I lose weight?".  Part of the problem lies within the question itself. You see the language we use is a reflection of the way we think. The question reflects ineffective thinking.
     
    How so? By asking this, you are looking for reasons you've been unable to succeed. Trust me. You will get them. Without realizing it, you’re continue »
    Tags: , , , , , , ,
  • I’m gay and afraid what people will think. What should I do?

    Click here to read the full post...
    scissors
    April 8th, 2010Keryl PesceLife in general

    I’ve actually known this girl for years. I’ve always felt a sense of sadness within her. She seldom smiles, let alone laughs. Most times my attempts to pick up her mood have been futile. I never took it personally, but I always wondered why she was so closed off and sad.

    Now I understand.

     

    Who wouldn’t feel sad and lonely? Imagine living a life on the outside that isn’t in alignment with who you are on the inside. What if her friends or family look down on her? What if they disapprove or even cut her out of their lives? Think about what it must be like to censor every thought, every word and every feeling. Maybe you already do. My heart breaks for her or anyone else in this position.

     

    First question I have is continue »

    Tags: , , , , ,
  • “I cry every night because I feel I failed.”

    Click here to read the full post...
    scissors
    March 24th, 2010Keryl PesceFamily and Relationships, Life in general

    Can you imagine beating yourself up that much? What's happening in this woman’s life that she feels so much pain and disappointment – about herself? Is it a factor of her actual circumstances, or of her expectations? It’s actually a combination of both, but overwhelmingly, it is her personal test of pass or fail. It is the criteria she uses to determine if she was a good person each day.

    This woman, who we’ll call Beth, is a spectacular individual – smart, determined, loving, hard-working, thoughtful and beautiful inside and out. Seriously. She has raised five intelligent, confident and balanced children. She lives in a beautiful home, has a kind and loving husband and works diligently in a demanding, but rewarding job.

    That right there is enough to qualify any woman as enormously successful, wouldn’t you agree? But here’s the kicker. continue »

    Tags: , , , , , , ,
  • Guilty Mommy – Caught in a modern-day parent trap

    Click here to read the full post...
    scissors
    March 17th, 2010Keryl PesceFamily and Relationships, Stress and Guilt

    “I’m blessed with a wonderful husband, healthy kids, live in a great house and have a good part-time job, but I live with guilt. Some days I enjoy nothing. I’m just going through the motions to get it all done and it seems like it never does. I’m guilty when at work and things slide at home. I’m guilty at home when my job needs more from me. I can’t even get a hair cut without feeling guilty. ” Yikes! Sounds like this chick (let’s call her Susan) is trapped, doesn’t it? I mean, she can’t stop taking care of her kids, nor can she give up her job. And she sure as heck can’t create more hours in the day. Susan doesn’t have a choice but to keep living as she has. Or does she? I say she does. She just can’t see it yet. She’s about to. continue »

    Tags: , , , , , ,
  • Help! I’m stuck in my job and can’t get out!

    Click here to read the full post...
    scissors
    March 10th, 2010Keryl PesceLife in general, Work

    Smart, genuine, caring, educated, and loyal. Oh, and did I mention funny and adorable? This girl seriously has her act together. If anyone has the world by the balls it's her. Except how did she find herself in the position of asking me “I feel stuck at my job. Everyone else always take the credit for what I do. I feel so unappreciated and unfulfilled. I feel like my time is being wasted. Help. What can I do?”? If a girl with this much going for her feels stuck, are the rest of us screwed? The fact is most of us who find ourselves in a less-than-ideal life situation actually do have our shit together. In the vast majority of situations, what’s required isn’t an overhaul of our lives. It’s usually one minor adjustment. A flicker continue »

    Tags: , , , , , , ,
  • The Pleasure Principle

    Click here to read the full post...
    scissors
    March 1st, 2010Keryl PesceLife in general

    Are simple pleasures the downfall of lasting happiness?

    Drop-dead beautiful face, hair to die for, doting husband, a Toll Brother’s home and two model-material kids. Sound perfect? Pretty darn close. Ask this fabulous female what else she would need to be truly happy, she’ll tell you “If only I could drop these 20 pounds, then life would be complete.” So what’s so tough about that? She knows exactly what to do. The fact is, all of us know. Eat less. Move more. Do we need another diet book, unused gym membership or dusty piece of exercise equipment? Obviously not. At our finger tips, exists a plethora of resources on what it takes to lose weight. The information is there. So what’s the problem? Why do so many people find themselves unable to drop the poundage? continue »

    Tags: , , , , , ,
  • Newer Entries »