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When I think back as far as I can remember on the self esteem/self worth bandwagon I rode, I realize what interesting (read wacked) turns many of us take.

When we’re little, we’re often told we can do and be anything we put our minds to. Most of us were regularly told how smart and capable we were and praised consistently for small achievements like tying our shoes, learning to properly write the number 5 and even coloring between the lines (mostly). These days, we even give 5-year-olds diplomas for graduating Kingergarten. ???

Then we scurry off to grade school and beyond where all of a sudden, continue »

Who doesn’t love a confident (not cocky!) person? Who doesn’t want to BE a confident person? We all do. As a matter of fact, balanced confidence helps us succeed in all areas of our lives – work, relationships, health, success, the whole kit and caboodle of what we want out of life. So what makes a person self confident? There are those who believe you either are a confident person or you aren’t. You know what I say? Bull. We all have the capacity to become self confident. Did some of us continue »

Health is a reflection of the relationship you have with your body.  ~Terri Guillemets

If your body could talk, what would it say to you? "Thank you for feeding me healthy foods and exercising me. I feel great. I look great. Oh, and thank you for  the importance you place on getting plenty of sleep so I can rejuvenate myself. I've shown my appreciation by removing those bags under our eyes."

While it may not use the same 26 letters you and I do, your body does in fact communicate with you on a daily basis. Let me ask you,  continue »

Well if that ain't a pretty crappy return on your investment. If it were money you were investing, you'd be broker than a bikini waxer trying to make a living in the 70's. (Boy, hair styles certainly have changed, haven't they?)

So it's not money we're talking about, but the fact is, your emotions, your time and ultimately your life are far more valuable than any bank roll. So if you're investing in a relationship that's a losing proposition, well then continue »

and other relationship myths you'll see an entirely new light after reading "The Case for Falling in Love" by Mari Ruti, PhD. Trust me. You'll never view love or so-called failed love the same again.

You know I'm an avid reader, and when I agreed to review this book, I did so because I figured it would be an appropriate topic for you. I mean, who doesn't want to love, be loved, let go of past failed romances and understand the complicated web we call intimate relationships. This book could single-handedly take the place of any book on relationships you've ever read. Yes girls, ditch the old guides.

Not only is Mari's book continue »

"I don't know what to do anymore. Honestly, I'm emotionally drained and exhausted. All I want is what's best for my child, but it seems he fights me on everything. And I mean, everything. He won't do anything I ask him to do, but his friends call and he jumps through hoops. How do I get him to listen to me?"

The answer lies in what you just said. Here's a hint. You just told me his friends have more influence with him than you do. There's a reason for that, and you'll understand why by the time you continue »

Growing up, I'd sooner eat my vegetables, clean my room and do my homework early (without being told) before I'd admit my mother was right. I suppose now that I actually DO like vegetables, a clean house and am diligently self-employed, I can say it.

"Mom, you were right . . . again."

Our moms were full of words of wisdom disguised as complete adult nonsense when we were kids, weren't they? 

"Be nice to your sister. You will like her and need her someday."

"Ha! Never!" As I plotted my next covert continue »

"When it comes to money, I'm a complete mess. I never seem to have enough, and my credit blows. How do I get my finances in order and turn my credit around?"

Simple. Change your behavior. You've got to start doing things differently, because what you've been doing until this point isn't working.

Let's break this money issue down into three basic pieces, and then we'll talk about what you can do in each area to continue »

"It's the same thing for me every year. I make up my mind in December about changes I want to make in the upcoming year (usually involving getting in shape) but a few months into the year (or sooner), I'm right back into my old habits. I really want to be successful this year. Why can't I ever seem to make my resolutions last?"

Why? Because that's your story and you're sticking to it.

Look at what you wrote to me. The answer is right there. It's all good though, because fixing it is easy. I'll explain in a minute.

A little background first. continue »

"I hear all this stuff about the power of positive thinking and how important a good attitude is. But what I wonder is, if being happy is something you either are or you aren't. Maybe some people are born happier than others. I'm beginning to wonder if I'm just not one of those "happy" people."

I love that you wonder this! For starters, it gives me the opportunity to talk about one of the fundamental beliefs I have about happiness, which I'll get to in just a second. But even more important for you, it tells me you are at a stage of reflecting on your life and happiness, and that is good news. It means doors are about to open and new and exciting things could be in store for you. So let's get you rolling.

First, a question. continue »