Women, life, happiness
  • Special Guest Blog Post! “Cultivating Your Own Happiness”

    May 5th, 2011Keryl PesceFamily and Relationships, Life in general

    OK, ladies! We've got a special guest in the house of Happy Bitches!

    Welcome Ellie Scarborough, Founder and CEO of www.PinkKisses.com. Find out how Ellie not only recovered from a low point in her life, but turned it into a smashing personal and professional success. You've heard me say "Life isn't what happens to us. It's what we do with what happens to us." Brilliant bombshells Ellie and her BFF, Amy Lynch took that philosophy to heart and created a website and brand designed around helping those of us who have had our hearts broken (anyone with me here?) get past the pain and take control our lives and happiness. And you know I'm all about that!

    Read Ellie's story. It's a refreshing tale of triumph over heartache. She's laughing all the way to Huffington Post, Today Show, New York Times, Cosmo Radio and more! Way to go my Happy Bitch friend!

    I started my day on only three hours of sleep. It didn’t matter. The coffee pot was turned on. I knew I’d power through. My team was coming over in less than an hour. It was go time.


    “How the hell did I get here?” I thought. “I mean, how did we actually do this?” I pinched myself like I’ve done so many times in the last six months… still not totally believing it’s all real.


    That was me on the morning of the first day of the rest of my life… just hours before I launched a little dream of mine called pinkkisses.com.


    It hadn’t always been my dream, though. It actually kind of crept up on me.  I grew up in a newsroom. I loved that my dad, as an anchor at a news station in New York, spent his days finding truth and impacting people’s lives. Naturally, I followed in his footsteps.


    For seven years I hit the streets hunting down stories. I worked in New York, Ohio and Texas. Some days were magic and everything fell into place. Some days we changed people’s lives for the better.


    But I left news to pursue a different dream — one where helping people and changing lives would be my mission.  One where I’d help women get through breakups with confidence and empower them to transform a low point into a turning point.


    Of course, it began with a breakup of my own.


    He ended it over the phone. There was something distinctly final in his tone. And yet, I still hoped that he would come back to fight for me with a gorgeous bouquet of flowers and we would live happily ever after.


    But the rest of my brain knew the fairy tale wasn’t possible with him. He wasn’t coming back; he was choosing not to call. That’s what made it so hard. I was a strong, smart woman with everything to live for, and yet most days it was all I could do to get out of bed.


    A month or so after that final phone call, I decided to take charge and do something. I sent myself the damn flowers he never brought me on his knees. I had the most beautiful blooms sent to the newsroom where I worked, and I authored the little note with these words:


    “Girl, you are way too good for some guy who won’t even send you these. Don’t waste another tear on him.”


    The flowers got me smiling, but they did something more. Taking that tiny little action got me moving in a whole new direction, and it got me thinking about other ways to encourage and inspire girls going through the same thing.


    That’s how pinkkisses.com was born. I wanted to give us all a way to help each other – and help ourselves – when we’re stuck in the trenches.  I honestly mean it when I say “moving on is the best revenge” — because there’s nothing better than cultivating and taking responsibility for your own happiness.  Don’t leave it up to someone else.  Coax it to life and take care of it on your own terms.  It’s the only way to live.

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