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    February 2nd, 2011Keryl PesceLife in general, Stress and Guilt, Work

    "I'm so unhappy in my job right now. I work my ass off, but no one seems to notice. This job is a complete dead end, but what choice do I have? The job market is impossible right now. I'm stuck."

    OK, pay close attention, because I've got breaking news for you. Ready?

    There is no such thing as a dead end job. None.

    Your knee-jerk reaction is to continue »

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  • “I’m tired of stressing about money. How do I get my finances in order?”

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    January 21st, 2011Keryl PesceLife in general, Money

    "When it comes to money, I'm a complete mess. I never seem to have enough, and my credit blows. How do I get my finances in order and turn my credit around?"

    Simple. Change your behavior. You've got to start doing things differently, because what you've been doing until this point isn't working.

    Let's break this money issue down into three basic pieces, and then we'll talk about what you can do in each area to continue »

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  • “Why do I have such a hard time keeping my New Year’s resolutions?”

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    January 7th, 2011Keryl PesceHealthy Living, Life in general

    "It's the same thing for me every year. I make up my mind in December about changes I want to make in the upcoming year (usually involving getting in shape) but a few months into the year (or sooner), I'm right back into my old habits. I really want to be successful this year. Why can't I ever seem to make my resolutions last?"

    Why? Because that's your story and you're sticking to it.

    Look at what you wrote to me. The answer is right there. It's all good though, because fixing it is easy. I'll explain in a minute.

    A little background first. continue »

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  • “I’m just not a happy person.”

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    December 23rd, 2010Keryl PesceLife in general

    "I hear all this stuff about the power of positive thinking and how important a good attitude is. But what I wonder is, if being happy is something you either are or you aren't. Maybe some people are born happier than others. I'm beginning to wonder if I'm just not one of those "happy" people."

    I love that you wonder this! For starters, it gives me the opportunity to talk about one of the fundamental beliefs I have about happiness, which I'll get to in just a second. But even more important for you, it tells me you are at a stage of reflecting on your life and happiness, and that is good news. It means doors are about to open and new and exciting things could be in store for you. So let's get you rolling.

    First, a question. continue »

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  • “I’m sick and tired of struggling.”

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    December 9th, 2010Keryl PesceLife in general

    "It seems like everything is such an effort. Is life ever going to cut me a break?"

    A while back, I posted on one of the biggest behavioral differences between wealthy and not-so-wealthy people. Almost to a person, it comes down to what they spend their time thinking about and talking about. (Click here to read the post: http://happybitchbook.com/pressroom/?p=578)

    Contrary to popular belief,  continue »

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  • How connected are cell phones really keeping us?

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    November 24th, 2010Keryl PesceFamily and Relationships, Life in general

    "Mr. Watson, come here. I want to see you." Just a few rooms away from each other, on March 10, 1876, Alexander Graham Bell spoke these words to his assistant over his newly-invented telephone. Two people, for the first recorded time in history, communicating with spoken words without being in each other's presence.

    Fast forward 134 years to 2010, and it is estimated that there are over 4.6 billion cell phones in the hands, pockets and purses of people all over the world. You could be in your car, heading on 95 South at 55 miles an hour and continue »

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  • How much difference can one person make?

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    November 15th, 2010Keryl PesceLife in general

    Guess who I spent some time with Saturday morning? Just Soledad O'Brien, the beautiful, accomplished author and correspondent for CNN.

    Now, I must admit, it wasn't as if she and I had gone out to lunch or were at a party together. Perhaps someday. Who knows?

    Anyway, I took a ride out to Pawling, New York to listen to Soledad speak about her new book, The Next Big Story, and have her autograph it for me. (Yes, I bought another book . . . again.)

    As I stood in the home-town book store listening to her, the truth is, continue »

  • “I have terrible follow-through, I suck with money and I get pissed off easily.”

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    "I'm not happy with myself, but I don't know what to do about it.  I constantly put stuff off and then feel like crap about it. I have trouble sticking with anything – even focusing. The truth is, it seems without even wanting to, I start arguments. I say stuff that I later wish I hadn't. Bottom line, I feel like a bitch. I don't even like me. What's wrong with me? How do I become a better person?"

    Well, my friend, you just continue »

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  • Five tips to ease the sting of a break-up.

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    October 28th, 2010Keryl PesceFamily and Relationships, Life in general

    If you've ever suffered the life-draining, sucking vortex of a painful breakup, you know how debilitating it can be. It's as if someone turned on a giant vacuum the size of the universe and sucked all the happiness, peace and familiarity out of your life. Do you want to know why it feels that way?

    Turns out that "He's under my skin." and "I can't get him out of my head." are more than just expressions. How so? When we love someone, he actually occupies space inside the emotional center of our brains. He, or more accurately, thoughts of him, physically live in the neurons and synapses (fancy words for pathways) in our brains.

    When someone leaves our life, through death, divorce or breakup, our brain gets confused. It's expecting to  continue »

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  • Do fairytale relationships exist only in the movies?

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    October 21st, 2010Keryl PesceFamily and Relationships, Life in general

    When you consider the barrage of bad news from television and magazines about the percent of marriages that end in divorce, are on the rocks, or simply just suck, it's no wonder the pattern continues to repeat itself. We get what we expect, right?

    Add to that, one of the few thorns in my side that is called "reality TV", further pounding into our heads that a typical relationship involves nagging, fighting, selfishness and downright meanness, it's a wonder any of us actually do have great relationships. We are so programmed to believe relationships are difficult. As a matter of fact, on the occasion that I do share how happy I am in my marriage, how easy it is and that we rarely ever experience what you would consider an argument, guess what? People continue »

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