Women, life, happiness
  • Interview with journalist, author and commentator Aliza Davidovit

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     The English language contains 26 letters from which we get to choose. According to Aliza Davidovit, author of the newly released book "The Words that Shaped Me", we need to choose wisely, for the words we use every day become the very foundation of our lives.

    " Each word in the book is like a Lego block for me. They each snapped together to shape me. By pulling all the Lego blocks apart, it has given me the opportunity and power to reassemble myself with the words that I want to define me and to SHAPE ME!" 

    Aliza scrutinized her life by breaking down and analyzing her vocabulary and then carefully selecting new and empowering words.

    "For every person, the list is different. In my book, I have deconstructed myself by going through the dictionary of MY life and took a close look at 80 words that triggered something in me. In the book I posture myself as the example to learn by – through my heartaches, failures and successes."

    Aliza, like many of us, has faced her fair share of life challenges, periods of reflection and reinvention.

    Her toughest life challenge?

    "The biggest heartache of my life, other than the death of family members, was my failed marriage. My parents had an amazing marriage of 38 years until my father passed away, so I had always believed marriage would be a fairytale for me too. But my marriage left me with an empty heart and often an empty bed. I stayed and I stayed and I stayed – most of all because I was afraid of change."

    That's a place many of us find ourselves in at some point in our lives – knowing we are not happy with our current circumstances, but choosing the comfort of the misery we know rather than venture out into the unknown. How did she do it?

     "I realized I had come to define myself by my affiliations: I was an employee of this corporation, the daughter of someone, the wife of someone, etc. I was hiding in the bylines and in the shadows of those I surrounded myself with hoping some of their sun would shine on me too. But I had enough. It was time to define myself. I didn’t have to be someone’s wife to have an identity. My name Aliza means happiness, and it was a gift that I had to give myself. Most people are afraid to die, I realized I was afraid to live. It was not an option anymore, and I chose to live."

     

     "I can’t really point to any of these experiences as one being greater than the other because I have learned from all of these wonderful individuals. Larry King said in our interview together that he had never learned anything by talking (but rather by listening). As an interviewer myself, I can really relate to that. The stories that inspire me the most are those about individuals who fought against circumstances which sought to keep them down. When interviewing media mogul Izzy Asper, the Canadian version of Ted Turner, he told me, “Success is not defined but what you’ve achieved but rather by what you’ve overcome to achieve it.”

    He was dirt poor when he started and died (in his 70's) one of Canada's richest men.

     

    When I interviewed Ambassador Nancy Brinker, founder of the Susan G. Komen for the Cure (for breast cancer), I was greatly inspired how this one woman, so deeply affected by the death of her sister, took a negative and turned it into a positive by creating such an impacting organization."

     

    Which brings out another point about the vocabulary of our lives. Don't let the words others throw our way dictate how we feel or what we do.

     

    "So many of the people who I interviewed were told, “Your idea is crazy,” or “You just can’t do it.” In the end they proved everyone wrong and excelled in their fields. So in my own life, when old doubts or fears or discouraging words try and stop me, I think about these people and what they have been able to achieve despite nay-sayers. When I was a kid and someone would tell me “no” for anything, I’d scurry away and retreat into my shyness. Today I will not take “no” for answer.

     

    Mark Cuban, owner of the Dallas Mavericks told me something I’ll never forget, “NO BALLS, NO BABIES.” So I grew a set. 

     

    Aliza has great advice for all of us. When others communicate with us, we need to be selective. Tune out disempowering words and focus on the empowering ones. The words WE choose are incredibly powerful as well. Many people believe the words they use describe the world they live in. I believe they actually create the world we live in. 

     

    Thank you Aliza for taking the time to talk with me and share your insight.

     

    (Aliza's new book is available for purchase at www.Davidovit.com.) 

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  • Yes, I totally agree with you Aliza. Every word we think or utter determines our experience and way we perceie the world and in turn becaomes our reality. It is up to us to take the initiative and change our lives for the better and we can do it. It is totally up to us. There is only so much G-d can do it is up to us to meet him half way.


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