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  • “I hate my job.”

    February 2nd, 2011Keryl PesceLife in general, Stress and Guilt, Work

    "I'm so unhappy in my job right now. I work my ass off, but no one seems to notice. This job is a complete dead end, but what choice do I have? The job market is impossible right now. I'm stuck."

    OK, pay close attention, because I've got breaking news for you. Ready?

    There is no such thing as a dead end job. None.

    Your knee-jerk reaction is to think I don't know what I'm talking about, and right about now you're building a laundry list in your head as to why you are justified in what you say. I mean, how could I know the conditions you work in right now, right? I'll give you that. I don't. But I do know this: the conditions aren't the real problem.

    I'll take a step back for a second.

    I'm not disputing that maybe the work you do isn't so glamorous, or that the people you work with or for are no prizes, but here's the deal. First, every single experience we have, whether we recognize it at the time or not, serves us somehow. Every one. So trust that and stop thinking you've got a raw deal. Second, if in fact there are no better opportunities for you right now, you still have a choice, and it's a big one – how you choose to look at and perform your job. Keep hating it and I promise your circumstances will not improve.

    Stop resisting where you are right now and choose to look for every opportunity to kick complete ass at what you're doing, no matter what it is.

    "But I already do."

    Maybe not so much. If you did, you wouldn't have the feelings of resentment you have right now. You see kicking ass has more to do with the way you do something than it does with what you do. Huge difference. Perform with pride, with the desire to enrich the lives of the people around you, whether it is the customer or the people you work with or for. Yes. Even if you don't care for them. I mean it. Tit for tat attitudes sink people.

    I want you to completely shift your focus on what is being taken from you and put all your thoughts and efforts into what you can contribute. And here's the key - do that without keeping score. If you do put in extra effort hoping and expecting to get something out of it in return, chances are you won't.  And you'll continue your cycle of misery. Just do it because it's how you now choose to approach your job – and life for that matter.

    Last spring, I had an appointment at the hospital. As I was leaving the parking deck, there was an old man sitting in the cramped booth collecting money as people left. Now, how much opportunity can an old man have in a closet-sized glass and metal structure? More than you think. As I handed him my ticket, he looked me directly in the eye and said "God blesses you. He blesses all of us." and he maintained that eye contact for a second before he looked down to process my ticket. I've got to tell you. He touched me. He really impacted me. Here it is nine months later and I remember what he did and how he made me feel.

    There are people who would turn their nose up at such a job. There are those who are performing the exact same job, hating it and feeling sorry for themselves because they feel they are above such a lowly job and feel stuck. We're never stuck. The only thing that is ever stuck is our thoughts.

    When our time here is about wrapping up, do you think you will look back and celebrate all that you received? Or what you gave? Give my friend. Give without keeping track and you just watch what magic happens in your life.

    If you want life to change for you, you first need to change how you approach life. That's when life starts working for you rather than against you.

    Real and fulfilling opportunity doesn't come to angry and bitter people. It comes to people who act out of love and a genuine desire to enrich the world around them. You get to choose what kind of person you want to be, which means you get to choose how much opportunity comes your way.

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