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Women, life, happiness
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    January 31st, 2014Keryl PesceLife in general, Stress and Guilt

    When I think back as far as I can remember on the self esteem/self worth bandwagon I rode, I realize what interesting (read wacked) turns many of us take.

    When we’re little, we’re often told we can do and be anything we put our minds to. Most of us were regularly told how smart and capable we were and praised consistently for small achievements like tying our shoes, learning to properly write the number 5 and even coloring between the lines (mostly). These days, we even give 5-year-olds diplomas for graduating Kingergarten. ???

    Then we scurry off to grade school and beyond where all of a sudden, continue »

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  • A Case for Changing Your Tune – Special Post for Tunigo

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    April 29th, 2013Keryl PesceFun stuff!, Stress and Guilt

    Hey there! I recently wrote a fun post for the music site Tunigo and thought I would share it here with you:

    “Life’s a bitch and then you die” they say.

    What I want to know is, who is the dimwitted “they” and why would they start such an ugly, self-defeating rumor? Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not perfect and ashamedly admit the phrase has stumbled its way out of my mouth a time or two (along with some colorful words that would turn a truck driver’s head). And anyone on the outside looking in would fully (click here to read the full post on Tunigo)

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  • When Life Piles it On and You Wonder Who’s Holding the Shovel

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    March 5th, 2013Keryl PesceLife in general, Stress and Guilt

    So life's a real Bitch (capital "B" intended) lately, you say. You're doing your thing – keeping out of trouble (well, most of the time – a little might be fun), working hard, taking care of everyone around you – demanding boss, incompetent co-worker, whiney girlfriend and even whinier boyfriend. Everyone else gets what they need except you. The only one who showers you with unconditional love, affection, attention and adoration is your dog. And even SHE has crap you have to clean up.

    What's the deal? Is life supposed to be (Excerpt from post for Girlfriendology. Click here to read full post.)

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  • You don’t need a Search Team to find Happiness at Work!

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    November 13th, 2012Keryl PesceLife in general, Stress and Guilt, Work

    Whether it is a boss who is borderline psycho (OK, hands in the air – who’s had one of those?), a company which doesn’t show its appreciation for your hard work, a co-worker who barely deserves the right to be called a “worker” or the conditions or functions of  your work sucking, there are ways you can be happier at work.

    In a nutshell, you’ve got two options. You can either change your circumstances or change you.

    Let’s address the first option.

    Change your circumstances:

    1 – Follow your passion.

    Take 30 quiet minutes away from distractions (I know it may be tough, but figure it out) and do some blue-sky thinking. Temporarily set aside continue »

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  • 7 Ways to Avoid Thieves of Confidence and Grow Your Self Esteem

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    August 9th, 2011Keryl PesceLife in general, Stress and Guilt


    Who doesn’t love a confident (not cocky!) person? Who doesn’t want to BE a confident person? We all do. As a matter of fact, balanced confidence helps us succeed in all areas of our lives – work, relationships, health, success, the whole kit and caboodle of what we want out of life. So what makes a person self confident? There are those who believe you either are a confident person or you aren’t. You know what I say? Bull. We all have the capacity to become self confident. Did some of us continue »

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  • “Work is stressful, but the money is good.”

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    April 25th, 2011Keryl PesceLife in general, Money, Stress and Guilt, Work

    "Your money or your life!" demands the classic TV robber as he presses the nose of a pistol into the unsuspecting victim's back.

    We chew our popcorn more slowly and wait with baited breath, anxious to see what the victim decides. Will she reach into her purse and hand over her cash? Or will she hang on to her money, kick the thief in the nuts and risk sacrificing her life?

    If the show is a comedy, you know she's going for the cojones and high-tailing it out of there. But let's imagine this isn't a comedy. As a matter of fact, let's imagine this is real life.

    You leave the mall one night after dark. You walk continue »

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    February 2nd, 2011Keryl PesceLife in general, Stress and Guilt, Work

    "I'm so unhappy in my job right now. I work my ass off, but no one seems to notice. This job is a complete dead end, but what choice do I have? The job market is impossible right now. I'm stuck."

    OK, pay close attention, because I've got breaking news for you. Ready?

    There is no such thing as a dead end job. None.

    Your knee-jerk reaction is to continue »

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  • “Why do I have such a bad memory?”

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    September 28th, 2010Keryl PesceLife in general, Stress and Guilt

    What if I told you your memory wasn't as bad as you think? As a matter of fact, what if I told you your memory is perfect?

    I know, sounds a little far-fetched. But it's not.

    I neither have MD nor PhD after my name, and while I don't doubt there are legitimate conditions that affect our memories, I've got a different theory about why many of us have difficulty remembering. And it doesn't have anything to do with smoking too many doobies or popping too many Quaaludes back in the day.

    It has to do with these two things:

    1 - An over-worked, under-rested, continue »

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  • “I’m tired of worrying all the time.”

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    June 2nd, 2010Keryl PesceLife in general, Stress and Guilt

    Fine. Then don't.

    The way I see it is worry is Enemy Numero Uno. She's a bitch on a tear who stirs up unnecessary crap and leaves a trail of anxiety and misery in her wake. She'll steal your money (or keep you from making it), break up your marriage, make you look bad at work, cause you to look and feel older than you are and even make you physically sick. Given the opportunity, she'll completely annihilate your happiness.

    So don't let her.

    How? Quit continue »

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  • “I’m so stressed out! I feel like I’m on the verge of a nervous breakdown!”

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    May 13th, 2010Keryl PesceLife in general, Stress and Guilt

    Sounds like the song of today's modern woman, doesn't it? We hear "I'm so stressed out." with as much frequency as we apply another coat of  lip gloss on girls' night out.

    It's been said life is a dance, but I don't think they ever meant today's frantically choreographed tap dance of reacting to one crisis after the next, putting everyone else's demands above our own and the brain-dead notion that we were ever meant to multi-task. It's almost like a badge of honor these days. WTF?

    "The faster I do this and the more I get done, the sooner I'll be able to relax."  Oh, so that's how it goes. Really?

    News flash: continue »

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